Addressing Sexual Predation on the Wider Pagan Scene

I was asked – Aleq – how do we address the issue of sexual predators on the wider pagan scene.

All I can say in the first instance is its the nastiest can of worms I have ever seen. Its a sticky one and it goes to the core of the setting and set of a lot of people.

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What would help look like?

M’kay – just bear with me for a sec – lets jump into Aleq’s world of fantasy for a sec – just go with me on this. This is theoretical – because I am a cynical old badger who doesnt think any of this could ever happen. To quote a better man: “I have a dream”

What would help look like?:

1) We don’t have to like each other – covens don’t have to get along – they never do anyway but there must be respect – we are all doing our own thing and we don’t need someone fucking it up by either:

Bringing in their mental health issues, substance abuse issues, screaming need for intervention issues, and gender identity, sexual orientation, desperate need to get their leg over, endemic racism, political bias etc etc etc – into the coven environment. Whilst I respect the difficult nature of some of these issues – there is a place for it.

A coven is NOT a therapy group, nor an identity politics platform, or a singles club – for that you seek appropriate boundaries in a professional/appropriate setting.

So point 1) – Boundaries – what is and is not acceptable in the coven/Wider community. Educate your people. Yes by all means direct people to where they need to be in a professional setting – but the community is not there to remedy them or assist their 12 steps – it certainly isn’t their hunting ground – respect goes both ways. A wand is a single cubit in length and a thumb thick  for a reason – it’ll fucking hurt if you smack someone’s peepee in circle if they function in an inappropriate manner – yes that’s what the wand is for – HITTING THINGS – when the sword is not appropriate. I’ll get to that later.

Yes I just condoned violence!

2) Communication – We don’t have to like each other – covens don’t have to get along – they never do anyway but there must be respect – we are all doing our own thing – But we absolutely have to communicate – that means going back to the old school – Group seniors typically on sabbatical should be working with other groups – they also can function as coven fetches/communicators. We develop relationships – we argue – we fight. but most of all we sit down and sort stuff out NOT ONLINE but face to face – and we talk stuff through. This will show we know who’s out there and what they are up to.

3) We don’t have to like each other – covens don’t have to get along – they never do anyway but there must be respect  – and through that respect a level of professionalism made manifest through a very few:

Enforcers.

I have been looking at a number of subcultures – and many of them have people who seek to maintain a level of discipline, decorum, professionalism, honesty et al – effectively standards – something the wider occult community has never had. Even the coven Elders answer to them, and they have veto over matters that would potentially bring the craft into disrepute.

Some will say – but that’s dictatorial/that’s going against my will/trip/rights/blah blah – and? . . . .I know of NO long lasting coven that is a democracy – the buck stops with the HPs  – her will is made manifest through the coven. People who cleave desperately to democracy lack the character to make the decisions themselves (based on the advice of their brethren) nor the courage to face the music if they fuck it up – put simply they have no place in magick until they grow up. Old Ones laugh at democracy – Nature isn’t a democracy – its sharp and bloody. Take a lesson.

Look at it another way:  Common Ground – can we all agree that sexual assault and rape are abhorrent and utterly anathema to the common good – Yes – congratulations – you just made a judgement call – and tossed the “Judge not lest ye be judged” bullshit right out the window – start from there.

A standard means someone will step the offending individual out – they judge because they have the right to judge and woe betide to fool that tries to buck this as they face the ire of the community. If this is an advisory it can be done discretely – if it’s something else then it will likely get messy – I challenge the offending fool to involve the police – I really do – because it will backfire very badly when a community turns. Yes I am suggesting “Educating” by all means – Stupid never learns – but it will respect what it fears.

Do I really need to restart the Guild of Ninja Wiccan Assassins again – do I?

4) We don’t have to like each other – covens don’t have to get along – they never do anyway but there must be respect  – and through that respect a level of professionalism is expected of all members of the group –  as such first and foremost – Personal responsibility underlined for anyone in the community, right from the very start. The very basis of emotional maturity – self-reliance and owning your shit. This is what I mean by ACTUALLY HELP – if you see something – say something – get involved – help a Sister/Brother – Listen objectively and I refer to point one with the identity driven with an axe to grind that will spin any yarn they can to drop someone in it.

This can effectively be policed with the police. Do I think the community can police this and investigate this and all the rest – the fuck I do – the pagan community has proven time and again that it will always cover its arse – bluster and then try and baffle us with bullshit. It is a community utterly incapable of policing its own.  If something is going on – yeah discuss – but only as a means to provide the right support for that person to go to the police – thats the one thing I have found that is common when I saw what was going on – on the London scene  – predators would seek out the loners, the vulnerable then further break them down so they would never talk to the police and with the 6% conviction rate in those days – it was pretty much a fait accompli for anyone wanting to try it on.

Be there for your brethren – OR – Be ready to ask for help – If you see something then discreetly say something and get involved.

5) We don’t have to like each other – covens don’t have to get along – they never do anyway but there must be respect  – and through that respect Lets talk to each other. Even if we have very conflicting opinions, be they political or otherwise – this age of identity politics has us too marginalised/divided, blinkered/ignorant/isolated, too stuck to our iPhone, too mired in social media, too mired in desperately trying to say something that wont offended the Eternal Sisters of Suffering or whatever Groupthink is so woke it’ll suck the joy our of anything –  when really we should be evoking unspeakable horrors for giggles. More Moots, more socials, more get togethers’. Yes I have repeated myself – lets talk – either through coven fetches, or group get togethers – who knows we might even get back to having grand Sabbats – anything is possible.

 

Lastly – We don’t have to like each other – covens don’t have to get along – they never do anyway but there must be respect.

That mutual respect can celebrate our individual strengths – the whole is greater than the sum of its parts . . .so lets fucking fix this. A collective standard facilitated via open communication, mutual respect and possibly even trust meaning the wider community is actually policed by caring individuals that care for their craft and don’t want to see in perpetually besmirched by sleazy predators.

 

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